This ain't brain surgery, Bucko.Īnother key one. In other words, while your words might be those of a suave-ass James Bond type, the subtext is that of Steve Urkel. The point is, these things are subcommunicating a lack of confidence. In any case, it's not long before the ladies start giving each other that "let's get the hell out of here" eye code. Or maybe they're just shifting from foot to foot Or sometimes, it's weird, spastic hand gestures. So often, I see guys roll up to a set and deliver their opener, then start making these weird, jerky head movements. Rhythm, expression and sexuality are all intertwined, and it's important to deliver a smooth flow, modulating things dynamically.ĬHECKLIST POINT #2: SMOOTHENING OUT/TOO JITTERY SMOOTH.įinally, start paying attention to the rhythm of your communication. you're being closely scrutinized, so you need to eliminate all "ummms" and "ahhs" from your vocabulary. Ever heard a news anchor flub a syllable on TV? It's minor, but because it's on TV, it seems like a glaring error.
Don't be concerned about sounding like a Chipmunks Christmas album, it's not noticeable amidst the thumping bass. You need to project your voice from the diaphragm.įive years of karaoke training have made this second nature to me, but for a lot of guys, it feels unnatural.įurthermore, it's sometimes necessary to raise the pitch of your voice in order to cut through the loud music playing at most clubs. You can't mumble and fumble your opener and expect to get a good response. The fact of the matter is, YOU CAN'T BUILD ATTRACTION IF THEY CAN'T HEAR YOU!! “If you know what the drugs are called, and you program words into the algorithm, like 'crystal meth' for example, it is very simple to detect those words,” David Fleet, a professor of computer science at the University of Toronto, told NBC News.CHECKLIST POINT #1: VOICE TONALITY/DELIVERYĪside from body language, this is probably the biggest thing I see missing from most guys' game. “Any moderation that these sites are currently doing, they are doing it for the benefit of their business model but not out of any legal obligation.”īut while Grindr is not legally obligated to moderate drug content on its platform, some experts say it would be relatively easy to do so. “Dating apps have no liability for any content that is posted on their platform by a third party,” Kai Falkenberg, a law professor at Columbia University, explained. The legislation, passed in the early days of the internet, is known as one of the most important tech industry laws. Like all websites and apps, the gay dating platform is protected by Section 230 of the Communications Decency Act of 1996. law, Grindr is not required to do anything when it comes to moderating drug-related content on its app. The capital T refers to meth’s street name, “Tina.”
The terms “parTy and play” and the acronym “PNP,” which can be seen on Grindr and beyond, are used by some gay men to describe a sexual encounter while under the influence of drugs. Those who are new to Grindr may be confused by all the seemingly random capital letter Ts and acronyms in Grindr profiles - that’s because some drug buyers, sellers and users on the app have their own language. “All you need to do is open up your app and look for that capital ‘T.’” SECRET LANGUAGE “The issue with drugs has been a gay community plague since the ‘80s, but in the modern era, you don’t need a guy who knows a guy,” Derrick Anderson, a Grindr user from Chicago, said. However, those who use the app say it is still home to a robust market for illicit substances. Grindr, by far the world’s most popular gay dating app with an estimated 3 million daily users, has previously taken steps to address the buying, selling and promoting of drugs on its platform. “Today with Grindr, men can have sex and drugs delivered to their door instantly,” Phil McCabe, a social worker and president of the National Association of LGBT Addiction Professionals, told NBC News.